14 October 2011

sexual innuendos

Slowly we are going to the dumps. As a society and a people. The deteriorating morals of our society are a pointer to just how far gone we are in this. And we have only ourselves to blame. Because we take anything that comes our way. Right or wrong.

At any one time a people should have a set of principles. These govern the way things are done and prevent extremes. And so the idea of taking in all sorts of stuff that comes our way is not right. It begun with the explicit TV commercials that had strong insinuations to sex. We protested a while but then went silent after a while. It is nothing but cheap to compare an object like a car to  female anatomy.

With the reign of unrestricted Internet now, what we are going to see is even more ridiculously devious acts. Once those addicted to the stuff get all so used to the same, they go in search of a new high. This could come in various forms all which are unacceptable in society but which all seem good to the user. What we have is a culture of feel-good people who will go to any length to achieve this feeling however short lived.

It is no wonder then that a girl would go on radio begging a man to go over to her place for some action. And in explicit language too. This seems to me like a person who has got to a level of what feels good for them is a must get, no matter what. And to beg for it too? So desperately too? We all need to be worried of this trend. This is the society our kids are growing up in. And it does not discriminate, could even suck in those old enough to know better. Needless to say, if exposed to any rot one gets used to it after a while. And so what we need to be fighting is the exposure. To an extent this might help especially to impressionable minds like the children.

It is indeed frightening how many people go on radio discussing intimate details to listeners. And all too willing to hear presenters. The results are a conversation that is well peppered and served to a willing audience that soaks up details and even finds humor in the same. Needless to say, anything sex is a crowd puller. Advertisers know this fact well and use it too. So did our society long ago in the years of ere.

Those people of old knew all to well the sanctity of sex. Thus they discussed it in low tones. Even those societies that gave sex education to unmarried girls did it under the watchful eyes of elder women. Anything close to a display the goods, so to say, was immoral. And should be. It should not be too hard for anyone to know that what is easily available is taken for granted.

And so what we as a society should be fighting for is to replace those old time lessons with modern more relevant ones. Given in a way that the youth can identify with but also keep their dignity intact. This way, sex is neither a taboo topic nor made so cheap so that it can be had with no holds barred. That way then the society will not be so open to foreign ideas on the same that serve to give a misguided idea of how a God ordained gift should be utilised.

03 October 2011

Yesterday I visited a cyber. It has been a long time since I did. I realised that so much has changed since the last time I went to one. What I witnessed yesterday is food for thought to all the parents out there.

I sat at a station next to this young boy. About 9year old, I would say. It took me a while to familiarise myself with the place and in the process I chanced to glance at him. My neighbor for the next several minutes. That little guy had me staring. He had several tabs open. And kept shifting one to another. I took the opportunity to have a look while my computer was loading. He had one face book page which he kept updating, A game running and yes an adult page too.

Forgive me for snooping but I just couldn't help but notice. So as this little guy sat there flipping tab after the other in enviable speed, I sat there wondering. Did his parents really know what he was up to? Being a Sunday, had he had an opportunity to go to church? And the cyber attendant, did he not know what this guy was up to while constantly criss-crossing the room? Is it all about cash for him?

At this point I was very afraid. Any parent out there should be too. I mean, if our children are turning to cybers to view what is forbidden at our homes then we have a huge problem brewing. No wonder kids nowadays are getting it all wrong! From the way they do adult dances to the texts they send each other. We are exposing kids to stuff that is not meant for them and in the process messing up with their thinking. There is even a clip of children dancing in the most lewd way with adults clapping and cheering them on!

The direction of any people is determined by the kind of kids they bring up. Kids brought up with the fear of God grow up with their morals intact and know where to take life's challenges. On the other hand when parents completely leave their kids to the world they learn all there is because after all the world does not care about who they become. It is all about an audience to them. And this is the case on our TV stations as well. Radio stations too. The media exposes our kids to all sorts of stuff, no holds barred. You can imagine sitting in a matatu with your child, having to listen to a detailed discussion about cheating spouses, with people calling in to give their own experiences. All around you everyone else is having a ball!

Back to my little friend. He called the cyber attendant at some point. He was having trouble opening a link on face book. A link of some popular musician. Now if you ask me, we all need to be careful what music our kids listen to. And keep informed too. It is quite sickening watching a video of some musician, with tattoos all over his body, only half dressed chanting God knows what to some excited female fans. Resulting in half the women throwing themselves to him in a frenzy.

And so my little cyber friend may not be alone. Most likely what he viewed yesterday will be discussed at his school break, alongside his excited peers. God forbid they should try acting out the same. I believe there is a solution about this. Parents need to constantly talk to their kids about stuff. And keep a listening ear on the ground too. Even control what is viewed at home. Freedom only comes with responsibility. And our kids are far from responsible yet.

Only last week we got an interpretation of a song done by a west African musician. The words are appalling! As much as am guilty to having listened and enjoyed the song mainly for the beat, that brought a close to my enjoying it any more. Because I am no longer ignorant to the meaning that was not understood to me before. But there are kids and people listening to this song, innocently enjoying the beats. What makes it worse is that the said musician is coming to perform in Kenya this week.

They say that what you take in obviously has an effect on you. People get affected by music they listen to which has  hidden meanings and codes. Needless to say we all need to be careful and get involved in what it is our kids are listening to. Join in with them so that we get a feel of their world. That way we shall be able to point out the dangers that lurk in all these places that they may be too young to grasp yet. That does not mean I will enjoy listening to some musician chanting what seems to be a song, interjected with groans and pants all so exciting to the youth but pure disgrace to me.