17 February 2012

Dont we just love pointing fingers!

It has happened again. Someone famous is in the limelight. For all the wrong reasons. He is getting a lot of bashing for it. So many people are out to express their disgust at him. I would too, if I didnt know better. Not to say that I agree one bit with what he has done. But I am not worthy to condemn. Really. Let me explain.

In the journey of life, we have been to places that we should not have gone to. Done things we should not have done. And it might not have seemed such a big deal to us when we did that. Perhaps we did not mean to go as far as we did. But it happened.

We are all quick to point fingers at others. I believe it is the human way to try and justify that we are not as bad. It is our way of shifting attention from ourselves. Surely our faults cant be as bad. And so we go ahead and condemn others. That one is a drunkard. Or a liar. Or of loose morals. Forgeting that placing a label on another has a lasting negative effect on them. And that most of us are no better. It is just that we got a second chance to better our lives.

I believe that noone desires to be of bad or evil repute. We all desire to be good. And that is why so many try to camouflage their bad side. But when it does come out like all evil does, then the reaction that comes with it will either make or break us. Acceptance and seeking a way forward often helps. So does trying to get to the root of the issue. Or better still involving a higher power. God.

Someone once told me the Henry Ford story. Once there was this man whose truck broke down. In the worst of places. And so he was standing out in that lonely place when this old man drives up to him and inquires of the problem. He was reluctant to let him in on the issue wondering what this old man could do afterall. But he tells him anyway. Not realising that he was speaking to the maker of the truck. How I wish we would all take life's problems to the author  of life. He will fix it all for us.

Most issues in our lives do not have a justifiable reason. They just happen. We make wrong choices not because of wrong upbringing or lack of else. Or we go ahead and flirt with something seemingly so harmless that lands us in the worst corner we can find ourselves in. All the ways of life.

I find that the way we live our lives is based on who it is that is with us in the journey. Because we tend to conform to the authority in our lives. There are those that are bent on the ways of the world. Anything goes, as long as noone gets hurt. Or finds out. Then there are those of us that conform to Christ. And accept his leading. Yes we do commit sin. And go off the way sometimes. But we are quick to seek to repair our relationship with God and continue in his leading.

And so I do not jump to judge. Because that person who made that grievious mistake is deserving of Mercy just like all of us. Rather than throw sticks and stones at him, I try to hear him out. Though not literally. What it is that could have led him to do what he did. And then I condemn that act of course. But I will not dwell on it. Rub it in. None of this helps.

Many people have had a turnaround of their lives from bad to good. I believe noone would bother trying to patch up their lives when all around him are crying foul. Those of us that did a turnaround did so because someone believed in us enough to see some good even when all others were baying out. That person who bandaged our wounds and set us on our feet again.

If we took time to help a brother up after a fall it would bring much change to the situation. Even the most hardened of hearts is moved by love. And so we might try showing more love to those who do not deserve of it. That way bring them to a point of remorse that might be their turning point. Might not work always but it is worth a try. Afterall when you think of it, which one of us does not have a dark closet. Which one of us is not deserving of mercy? Let the one who has not sinned cast the first stone. I rest my case.

06 February 2012

It happened when I saw you smile,
Your eyes looked into mine,
I've loved you dearly since that day,
Please be my valentine.

These were the words of my very first valentine card. From my hubby. That was so many years ago. Those words touched the very core of my heart. I took them to memory and until this day they remain in my heart. My very own treasure to cherish.

Lovers' day is just around the corner and I will most probably get another huge card with some loving words. But it is the words of that first card that linger. Said to a young heart they held so much meaning much as they do now.

I will forever be grateful for finding true love. For finding that one person who believed in me enough to fight for my love. To pursue my heart so artfully. I will forever celebrate the vows made before God and man. To Love, to cherish and to hold.

Everyone needs love. We all seek to find that one person who will love us endlessly without fail. One that we are willing to committ our lives to. Given, this search for love is as diverse as they come. Some have found love on the internet while others have met their beloved on the job. Different methods, same result.

More often than not those in love make time to be together. To get to know each other better. It has been said that a person struck by love is never the same again. And that one cannot hide the fact. Love has a way of showing through. In the least expected places. It is in the way Lovers touch. And the way they look at each other. Also in the way they are able to communicate their feelings, no words needed. Love is indeed divine.

Something so beautiful must be of God. As such it is meant to last forever. But many are the times when that sudden flutter of the heart is taken to mean that love has found us. Or when a physical attraction makes us think that we are meant to be. Love takes time. If it is the real thing it will stay. And so there is no need to fight for love.

Times have changed and what we see is the search for love in so many new ways. Gone are the days when boy met girl and took time and effort to get to know her better. Even dug up some info about her. What we are seeing nowadays is boy friends girl on facebook, they chat every minute of the day that is available offering details of their lives. Some false. Then with time they arrange a meeting and decide to formalise their love. Just like that.

I feel for all the people who miss out on the fun of dating. When a girl had to steal out to go meet a boy. And when they did meet it was not obvious that the boy would get more than a handshake. Those were the days. When a man sweated it out trying to win his girl. And when he did, it was well worth it.

While I have no qualms about the new way of things, I only wish that those seeking love would take more time to know each other. That the girls would not be so available at the slightest signal. After all, come easy goes easy. It is well worth the wait the time spent learning more of each other. The heart is too delicate to mess around with. Once broken, some do not recover. The effort is daunting.

And so I take this time to wish you all a very happy valentine's day. For all those who have found true love, hold dear. And to all those out there looking to find that special person I wish you well. Above all I wish you would involve the author of love in your search. He knows your needs and will let you find love if you involve him.

Happy valentines you all!